After receiving a note from Casey (via MySpace, where she found and friended me), I noticed that her top "friend" is her mother. Against every bit of good sense and judgement (and because I noticed that the mother's profile photo, so prominently displayed on her daughter's site, featured her, posing nude), I clicked through.
I can't help but be frustrated at this woman's cavalier attitude toward the responsibility of motherhood. She posts photos of her daughter (some where her daughter is posed in a way that I would consider inappropriate for her age) and comments that she is her "baby" and her "one and only" - and yet she dropped the child off with relatives and numerous times has left Charming messages asking him to just sign the paperwork for full custody so she doesn't have to deal with "the brat." She also comments on her idol, Britney Spears, and has an entire nude photo collection on her site. I wonder what kind of example this is going to set for Casey, and how it will affect her decisions as she hits adolescence and moves on to high school. I worry for her and can't understand why more intervention hasn't taken place.
"You don't have kids, you don't understand," is the only reply I ever get.
Another thing that I noticed, that stung, was that she lists Charming as one of her "top friends." The sting is moreso because I know I can't go to him and ask him about it, and because I can't ever ask him to stop interacting with her. Charming told me when we got together that he saw no reason that anyone should ever be "friends" with or hang out with an ex (he was referring to his jealousy over my meeting my ex for a drink to discuss calmly how we were going to split up our furniture and how he was going to get me the money he owed me for bills, among other things). I asked him, in front of his friend (who also has a daughter and is re-married), how he could actually say something like that to me and maintain a relationship with his ex (I would think he of all people would be most understanding), and they both immediately said, "It's different."
Is it? Because I didn't have a child with my ex (with whom I lived for 5 years, as opposed to his few month relationship with the mother of his child), do I now have the right to be in contact with him?
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