Last night, Charming took me to the Hard Rock Casino for an afternoon at the tables and an evening of Billy Joel! The day was awesome, even if I just broke even and didn't win any money (I'm a very conservative gambler, so while I don't lose a lot, I don't win a lot, either). The show was amazing - really a once in a lifetime opportunity to see such a musical legend.
When I got home, I read more of the great feedback/advice in the CSMChat.com Forum, and now that I've had some time to think, I want to put out some thoughts on date nights, and ask for your feedback.
Charming has agreed that we will be having adult time and "date nights" once Casey comes out to stay with us. I wonder, however, how they will differ from our current date nights, what I should expect/demand from him, and what other CSMs out there have experienced.
I've read in a lot of places that once a week is reasonable for adult time (although I do plan on going out more often, as I have commitments with coworkers and friends). Our situation is a bit difficult, since she'll be joining us clear across the country from anyone we know who could babysit her (her family, grandparents, bio mom, etc), and I can't ask my friends to sit for her - the only friend I have with a child (he's 4) does not like Casey because the one time Casey met her son, she bullied and pushed him (he was 3 at the time, Casey was 12).
If we have to pay a sitter, who should be responsible for that?
I've also read that it's important for Charming to spend alone time with his daughter - but how often should he be doing that? Additionally - does that mean that I have to find something to do and stay away from my home, or is it reasonable to expect that during that "alone time" - if they don't want me around that he will take her elsewhere? I feel as though my being asked to stay away from the house would be inappropriate - but I welcome thoughts.
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